The Bachelor’s Alexa Caves opens up about her sexuality

ABC/Maarten de Boer
ABC/Maarten de Boer /

Due to an inundation of DMs inquiring about The Bachelor contestant, Alexa Caves’, sexuality, Caves revealed on Instagram that she’s sexually fluid–not that it was really anyone’s place to ask.

The Bachelor’s former contestant Alexa Caves, who was eliminated in week three of Peter’s season, revealed that she is sexually fluid–because she had hundreds of invasive DMs from people who kept asking. Why is this anyone’s business?

Can we take a moment and reflect that someone came out to the masses after being bombarded by literal strangers?

Caves shared her thoughts in a statement shared in People’s initial report breaking down exactly where she’s at with all of this. And just in case you were wondering, she’s very proud of the woman she is–just as she should be. You go, girl!

"The amount of people that ask me about my sexuality in my DM’s is crazy. LOL, I’ve been getting it since the first episode. It is by far the question I get asked the most. I’m fluid. I’ve been with women and I’ve been with men. I’m open minded [sic]. To me this really isn’t a big deal. People in my life know this about me. But I thought that I’d share this because some people are curious and I’m not ashamed of who I am."

She ended her statement by letting us know, “I just do my thang.” So why aren’t we letting her do just that? On the one hand, I immensely applaud Alexa for not only sharing this but normalizing it while casually alluding to the severe influx of DMs and tweets she got about this. On the other hand, the fact that she had to make this ‘announcement,’ for lack of a better term, is where the problem lies.

ABC/John Fleenor
ABC/John Fleenor /

It’s true that we live in a society where information is rampant and flowing, and with the age of social media has come a ‘need-to-know-now‘ mentality. However, please remind me where we were granted the right to not only know but to repeatedly inquire, about the sexuality of a stranger on a television show.

Can you imagine if this was something she was not comfortable sharing? If this was a sensitive thing for her?

With that said, huge props to Alexa for how she worded her post. ‘To me, this really isn’t a big deal.’ And it shouldn’t be, but here we are. It just really isn’t a big deal at all–it’s her life. Live and let live, people. Stop DMing complete strangers about their sexuality! It’s truly no one’s business but theirs.

Jordan Kimball has a celebrity guest stint with the Chippendales. dark. Next

Do you feel any type of way about this like I do? Share your comments below, Bachelor Nation.